Square breathing

One of the ways to calm yourself when things seem scary is to understand that our bodies are machines that were designed when our brains were smaller and our reflexes had to be quicker. Our lives are testimony to those of our ancestors who possessed quick reflexes; slower folk didn’t live long enough to pass their genes along.

Breathing is the key to calmness. The fight or flight response - our age old response to real or imagined threat - depends on delivering oxygen quickly and efficiently to rapidly metabolizing muscles by increased heartrate, closing down of the bronchioles in the throat, diversion of blood supply, and sweat. Real or perceived danger (anxiety) throws the body into overdrive, literally. Calming the breathing slows everything down.

Ordinarily, we parallel breath, in and out. To enter into a more relaxed state, practice square breathing, which is inhaling to the count of four, holding to the count of four, exhaling to the count of four, and holding for four. With practice, you can increase the intervals and slow things down even more. Square breathing is not only good for confidence building, but it’s also good for relaxation, talking to the boss about a raise, preparing for a speech, and - ta da - going out on a date.

Dating

Dating makes everybody feel like a dummy, whether you’re 15 or 115, going out on your first date, or rejoining the dating scene after your grandkids have started dating. “It’s still the same old story” - as sung by Dooley Wilson in Casablanca - “a search for love and glory,” and there really are some fundamental things that do apply. I’m going to lay them all out for you, not so that you can be a stud muffin or the hottest kid on the block, but so that you can understand a bit more about yourself, your date to be, and the whole process. Then maybe the old palms will sweat less and, believe it or not, you may actually have some fun.

What is speed dating?

When someone asks me this question I ask them whether they have heard or they know about Twitter. There is quite a significance between Twitter and Speed Dating. Twitter is a micro-blogging platform which enables its users to quickly post about what they are doing or what's happening with them in about 150 characters, as they would write in a telegram, which enables the readers to quickly grasp about what's going on with them.

Same is with Speed Dating, people interact in large numbers and want to know about each other in least time and least words. If their interests meet they start seeing each other otherwise look for other speed daters. It is a myth that speed dating is something like dating very frequently and finishing off the dating early. Speed Dating can be taken as a formalized matchmaking or dating process.

Speed Dating has been featured in movies as well, such as Je préfère qu'on reste amis, Hitch, The 40-Year-Old Virgin and Shoppen.

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